Setbacks Don’t Mean Failure
Sometimes I am just a mess. When the tears are flowing I feel like I am falling apart. I turn something simple into something complicated, and then before I know it, I am kicking myself.
“You’re not strong. You’re not brave. Seriously, some brave girl you are… You’re just a mess! Who are you kidding? Just give up now.”
I go back and replay the situation that caused this breakdown in my head, thinking of how I wish I had handled it from the start.
Then the regret sinks in. I regret my indecisiveness, which led to causing confusion for someone else, which led to aggravating my husband, which led to me fighting back tears. I regret letting the tears fall down my face. I regret kicking myself. I regret my regret.
Then I realize I need to stop before I get too deep into the dark abyss. As I breathe through the tears and regain my peace, I realize I am okay. It is okay.
Rome was not built in a day.
I am still growing on this journey. I am still learning to change my thinking and be more confident in my decisions.
I am not going to let others discourage me during setbacks. You know those nasty insecurities that cause others to be mean? Don’t let them project those on you. We are all on our own journey. So if they have something to say about you messing up, remind them that the race is not over. We are all a work in progress.
There are going to be setbacks. When you are trying to more confident, you are going to come across challenges that cause you to question yourself. When you are trying to eat better, you may have times when you give into that craving. When you are trying to break a bad habit, you may momentarily give into it again. We just mess up sometimes. Don’t let those moments, or days, make you give up the entire race.
This is a process, not an overnight change. I don’t have to give up because of a setback. I have not failed the entire day because of a few moments. The day is not over. I have nothing but opportunity to improve from here. I’m running a marathon, not a sprint.
So let’s shake off the bad thoughts. Let’s stop sulking. Let’s stop kicking ourselves over mistakes.
Put down the potato chips, or the tub of ice cream. Dry your eyes. Put a smile on that beautiful face, and keep moving forward.
“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.” Hebrews 12:1 (NIV)
I can do this! YOU can do this! WE can do this!
Brave Girl – Arise!