What Are You Speaking?
The power of the words we speak has been brought to my attention in several ways lately. So I have been paying more attention to what I am speaking. It has also caused me to be more aware of what others are speaking around me.
The things I have heard have been quite surprising.
I hear wives snap at their husbands in stores, and I think, “My goodness!” Then I think about whether, or not I have spoken to my husband like that in public. I cringe as I regrettably remember that I have before. (My darling, if you are reading this, I am truly sorry.) It just sounds so awful to hear spouses speak so rudely to each other, especially in public.
Sometimes it’s not necessarily what we are saying, but how we are saying it. Your tone is part of your speaking. It matters too. This is another one I regrettably have been guilty of in the past. My husband pointed out to me many times that it wasn’t what I was saying to him, but the manner in which I said it. You can speak with hatefulness and anger, or you can speak with love and kindess.
What has really caught my attention lately is how parents are speaking to their children. The words I hear spoken to little ears shocks me. I have heard too many parents tell their kids they are tired of them, or they are driving them crazy. I have heard parents yell and cuss at their children in public and basically verbally beat them down. It’s heart-breaking. You can discipline a child without raising your voice, or cussing at them. I have seen it done. I have actually complimented parents in public who have handled a situation with their child in a more positive way. I just wish I could say something to the ones who don’t though, without fear of being verbally, or physically assaulted for it.
I guess some parents really don’t realize that how and what they speak to their children can have a lasting effect on them. If you tell your daughter she’s being a little snot every day, well, do you expect her act any differently? Do you think that is teaching her to not be a little snot? Kids learn by watching us and listening to us. If you want your kids to be kind, gentle, and loving. Then be kind, gentle, and loving with them.
This reminds me that I ran into a friend recently who I hadn’t seen in years. I asked her about her kids, and her response was “I love them!” And my response to her was, “I hope so! You had them.” Then I realized that probably didn’t sound very nice. I didn’t mean for it to come out that way, but after seeing so many parents whose actions don’t seem to show their love for their children, that is what came out of my mouth. My response to my friend should have been, “That’s great! I’m so glad that the first thing you say is that you love your children because I feel like I see many parents who don’t.”
Another thing that is important is how you speak to yourself, or about yourself. If you tell yourself you’re not good enough every time you make a mistake, you start believing it. Don’t be verbally abusive to yourself. Tell yourself you ARE good enough. Start speaking more positively in general, and watch the effect it has on your life.
Proverbs 18:21 says, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
Are you speaking life or death to your spouse? Are you speaking life or death to your children? Are you speaking life or death to yourself?
“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18
Are you piercing others by what you speak, or are you healing others by what you speak?
I encourage you to pay more attention to what you speak and how you speak.
Be brave! Be blessed friends! Speak life!