Sometimes it is difficult for others to accept changes in our lives. If they don’t understand the changes, then what we are doing seems weird to them. It is even more challenging when we no longer choose to do things that they are doing. Unfortunately, choosing to no longer do something can often times lead to us being accused of “acting better” than someone, or being “high and mighty.” These accusations can cut deep and leave you feeling isolated.
Fret not, my friends. Growing pains are part of the process. Others are not always going to support what you are doing.
Remember, when you feel isolated, God is still there. And, as difficult as it can be to trust this, He is ALL you need.
It is tempting to try to change others with you. It is our job to love and live by example. It is not our job to change others. I am guilty of forgetting this. I want so badly for the ones I love the most to grow with me because I see better things ahead. That doesn’t mean that they see what I see though.
So, if my wings take me to new places, while others stay behind, then I have to accept that is their choice, not mine.
A sweet friend shared this quote recently, and it opened my eyes.
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” -Socrates
I realized that I have been fighting the old, and it is only causing problems. I have to stop looking back. I have to stop worrying about what others are doing and do what I need to do.
I cannot keep fighting the old and move forward. Do you ever feel like certain areas of your life are stuck on a perpetual cycle? I do, and I feel like fighting the old over and over again has become one for me. You have to break out of that cycle, and do something different. Again, you may feel isolated because others choose to stay in that cycle. Just focus on building the new.
I also need to trust that when I’m not sure how I can do this, especially when I feel alone, God is making a way.
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” (Isaiah 43:19)
Break the cycle.
Build the new.