Count Your Blessings
Let’s talk about something that causes envy: Comparing your life to others, or counting the blessings of others instead of your own.
In this social media fueled world it is all too easy to see what everyone else “has” on a daily basis.
Suzie got a new car. Tommy got a new job. Look how cute their kids are! Look how big their house is! They look so happy. Life must be great for them…
And before you know it, you may find yourself thinking: I wish I could afford a new car. I’m so sick of this job! Why can’t we have kids? This house is small. I wish my life was different…
Sound familiar? Have you ever been down that path, friend? Honestly, I’m pretty sure we all have at some point to some extent.
Comparing our own life to others causes envy. We see how great someone’s husband, kids, job, house, or appearance is, and we want one, or all, of those areas in our life to look like that. Some people spend so much time comparing their life to others that they become bitter. “Envy rots the bones.” They start tearing down the people they compare themselves to for how their life is going.
“Well, if things were just that easy for us…” or “If my metabolism was like hers…”
Let’s not let envy rot our bones. We don’t know what we don’t see. Her husband may be nice to her in public, but he tears her down in private. That job may look great, but maybe he is wishing he didn’t work fifty hours every week. We may think someone else has it easy, but we don’t know what they have been through to get where they are today. We don’t see everyone’s sleepless nights, prayers, or just plain hard work that’s done when others aren’t around.
Be thankful for the life you have. If you want something better, then do something different. If you want a better job, then go look for another job. If you want a better marriage, then pay more attention to your own husband instead of someone else. If you want your kids to be better, than spend more time teaching them and loving them.
And please, try not to make someone else feel guilty for the life they have. Your life is a result of the choices you have made. Others haven’t made those choices for you. So don’t make them feel bad for what they have that you don’t.
Be happy. Be grateful. And be happy for others instead of envious.
“A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.” (Proverbs 14:30)
I encourage you this week to count your blessings. And while you are at it, find ways to be a blessing to others.
Have a heart at peace.