How Are You?

Ok, friends. January is over. You’ve got one month of this year under your belt now.

So, how was it? Where are you at on your goals? Are you making progress? Have you made new habits? Are you getting things done?


Are you struggling? Have you given up? Have you lost your determination? Have you let excuses get the best of you?

If it’s the former, great job! Keep going, even if it’s just a little at a time! You’ve got this!

It it’s the latter, let’s talk it out. Let’s discuss what might be holding you back and what you can do about it because I’m a mix of both sides right now.

I’ve formed some new habits. I’m chipping away at some of my goals. I’m seeing improvement. However, I’ve also struggled this month. Despite my efforts, I’m feeling stuck in certain areas. It’s caused me to start questioning certain goals. Are they really meant to be? Do I really have what it takes? Is this even possible?

I asked God for help. I asked for guidance. I asked Him to search my heart and show me my ways, my weaknesses. Two things have been brought to my attention: Worry and excuses.

In the areas where I’m not seeing results, I begin worrying. I worry I’m doing something wrong. I worry that I’m not going to grow. I worry that I’m going to fail.

Worry has been a huge obstacle in my life. I have fought it over and over. I can’t continue another year like this. We are not meant to worry so much. We are meant to trust and believe that things are being worked for our good. We are meant to trust God’s plans.

“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:34 NIV

Friends, let’s stop worrying about what might not happen and start believing in the impossible!

Now, about those excuses. I don’t have enough time. I don’t have enough money. Things aren’t happening for me like they are for someone else.

We all have the same number of hours each day. What we do with them is up to each of us. I will make the time for things that matter enough to me. It may mean getting up earlier, staying up later, or shutting off the TV. The choice is mine to make. When it comes to your time, you choose it. Sometimes, other things need to be sacrificed. If you don’t want to give something up, then you don’t want that other thing bad enough. That’s your choice, nobody else’s.

Money is another big excuse. We don’t all have the same amount of money. But, we have the ability to choose what we do with the money we have, or we have the opportunity to find ways to make more. What skills do you have that could bring in money? Can you get a part-time job? Where can you cut spending in your household? Give up that daily cup of coffee or fountain drink. Give up that lunch out and pack a sandwich. Get creative. If you want things to change bad enough, you’ll find a way to do it.

Watching other people succeed can be motivating. It can also cause you to become discouraged though if you’re not seeing the results they are. Friends, we are not all the same. They may have more time. So, you’re going to have to work harder than they do. See what you can learn from them. Maybe they know something you don’t know. Hear this though: Don’t get angry. The devil wants you to get mad at others for their success so you’ll start coming up with excuses and quit. Don’t give the devil a foothold. Your growth will come in your time when you are doing what you are supposed to be doing. Just keep going.

I know that seems easier said than done, but that’s where I am. I got angry this month. I watched others get what I thought should be mine. Life is just not fair sometimes. I can’t control what others do. What’s the point in getting angry at something that you can’t change? Accept it and move on.

Maybe you need to reevaluate a few things. Did you set too many tasks to accomplish in one day? Having too many things on your to-do list each day can cause enough stress to keep you from getting anything done. Is there a goal you set that just doesn’t seem that important now? Prioritize your goals and work from there.

I’ve had to set a few things aside. I realized I can’t do it all at once. I prioritized my goals. Those at the top get worked on first. The secondary goals are now icing on the cake. If I get to them, great! If not, it’s ok.

So, friends, how are doing?  Do you need to stop worrying? Do you need to drop the excuses? Do you need to reevaluate and prioritize?

Let me know how you are doing. I would love to encourage you and pray for you!

Be brave!

Be blessed!



Author: Ashley

Midwest girl. Enjoying life with my husband.