Yesterday, another vehicle and I changed lanes to pass by a car-hauler that was going slow. Now, it’s understandable why the car-hauler was moving slowly of course. It’s heavy. It takes a bit to get the thing going. I get that.
What is not understandable is why the guy tried to speed up past the speed limit to where we couldn’t pass him. That’s just plain spiteful…
Have you ever had that happen to you? You try to pass someone going slow, and then they speed up because they just can’t handle you passing them… It’s quite aggravating.
Why do we act like this?
Somebody passes you. So what! Does it make you less of a person? Did they personally insult you?
Nope and nope.
So let’s knock it off with the spitefulness please.
Let’s stop the “I’ll show them” attitude.
And this doesn’t just apply to driving. We don’t just act this way to strangers on the road. We do it to friends and family too.
“You won’t do what I want you to do…Well, see if I help you next time.”
I’m sure we have all had things done to us out of spite, and I bet we’ve all done something spiteful to others at some point too.
Spitefulness is an internal issue, friends. We generally do something spiteful because we get our feelings hurt.
You know what can help avoid spitefulness?
Acceptance and communication.
Let’s go back to the road. When someone passes you, just accept that they are passing you because they want to go faster. They don’t know you. Accept it and leave them be.
When a friend or family member does something spiteful, don’t attack back. Accept that it’s their feelings that are causing them to act that way. Then communicate with them. Ask what’s wrong.
And if you are the one being spiteful, stop it. Communicate properly. Be brave and let them know what’s bothering you or move on. Don’t do mean things out of spite.
“…seek peace and pursue it.” (Psalm 34:14)