Are you a chameleon?
Do you change your colors based on your surroundings? Do you find yourself trying to blend in with your surroundings? Are you trying to hide as if predators are out to get you?
Is there a work you, a church you, and a home you?
I’m not just talking about changing the colors you are wearing, friend. I’m talking about your actions, your demeanor, and your words.
I’m talking about walking into work and trying to blend in. Or keeping quiet during break room conversations even though you have something to say because you’re worried you may stand out too much. What if I’m too bold? What if they don’t get me? What if they think my comment is ridiculous? Or are you all fun and games at work because being the easy-going person is what you think everyone wants?
What about the church you? Do you walk in with a “bless your heart” smile plastered on your face even though you had a rough week and it was a struggle just to get there on time? Do you say yes to every request or favor asked of you by someone at church because you feel it’s expected of you? Do you walk right back out those doors and forget about what the pastor preached as you start a new week?
Are you completely different at home with your spouse or children than what you are at work or church? Are people outside seeing a different side of you than what your husband and kids get to see? Are you more fun at work than you are at home?
Are you acting differently, carrying yourself differently, or speaking differently based on your surroundings because you just want to blend in, to feel included? Are you afraid if you don’t change to sound, act, or look like those around you they will attack?
We shouldn’t need to feel like we must change our colors based on our surroundings. We should be able to be who we are.
Do you have to let your crazy show at work? Well, no. I’m not saying that. But don’t be so afraid to speak up, to be heard. Don’t be afraid to let others know you need help. Don’t be afraid to say no to that volunteer request because you’re maxed out on your schedule.
Sure, there are going to be things you do or say when you’re in the comfort of your own home, but you don’t have to blend it everywhere else if that’s not who you really are. If you’re bold, be bold. If you’re funny, be funny.
Don’t be a chameleon.
And be you!