4 Ways to Love Your Husband Better (Love Series – Part 1)
I know it’s cliché to write about love during the month of love, but hey, when in Rome…
I’m going to embrace it and write about love the entire month. We’ll start with loving your husband. Later on, I’ll be covering love in friendships, loving strangers, and maybe even loving your children. So, make sure you subscribe to my TRIBE below to stay tuned in for the Love Series.
Here are 4 ways to love your husband better:
1. Don’t sweat the small stuff
The small stuff used to drive me crazy: dirty socks, dirty boots, wet towels, etc. I used to get so tired of picking these items up or asking him to do it. Then one day, I smiled at a can of shaving cream, and it changed my perspective.
Why get upset over the little things? Smile because you have a husband who works hard in those dirty boots you are putting away. Smile because you like that clean-shaven look of his even though the shaving cream is still sitting out. Smile because you never know if there will come a day when you’ll miss those things. If you lost your husband, would the number of dirty socks you picked up over the years really matter anymore?
Don’t sweat the small stuff. Just smile.
2. Let go of grudges
Holding a grudge was once a strong ability of mine. Have you ever given your husband the silent treatment? I have. Too many times to count. Do you know what it accomplished each time? Nothing (or at least nothing good).
Holding a grudge generally hurts you more than the person you are punishing. So just quit doing it. Speak your peace and move on. Sulking around the house, giving silent treatments, or refusing to do things for him (like laundry or cooking) is just silly. Let go of the grudges.
3. Mind your tone
I’ve been known to struggle with my caustic tone. I’ve improved a lot over the years, but occasionally my husband will remind me to watch how I am speaking. He says it’s not about what I’m saying but how I’m saying it.
How do you speak to your husband? Do you speak in a soft tone or a harsh one? Do you kindly ask him to take care of something or demand it?
“Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and health to the bones.” Proverbs 16:24
So, mind your tone.
4. Be a teammate!
You and your husband are on the same team. What do teammates do? They work together. They assist each other. They cheer each other on. They pick up the slack when one may be falling behind.
It’s never meant to be you against him. It’s you and him against the struggles we all face in this world. Support him on the bad days. Encourage him on the good days. And work towards goals together. Be the best teammate you can be!
Love your husband better!