Do You Think Others Should Be Helped?
When you find out someone is facing the same struggle that you made it through, how do you respond? Do you have compassion for them or expect them to get through it on their own because you did?
Have you ever said, “I didn’t get any help,” and thought someone else shouldn’t either?
If your response to someone’s struggle is, “I didn’t get any help,” you need to check yourself. That statement is not a Jesus response. It doesn’t come from a place of compassion and love. It comes from a feeling of pride, selfishness, anger, or even jealousy. Either one, or a combination of them, is causing you to respond without compassion.
Just because you made it through a struggle without any help, doesn’t meant someone else doesn’t need help through the same thing. That person isn’t you. They don’t think like you. They don’t act like you. They weren’t raised like you. Even growing up in the same household doesn’t mean you were raised 100% the same.
And here’s something people don’t like to here, but it’s true: males and females are different too. Boys and girls, men and women, and brothers and sisters often perceive and respond in different ways to the same struggle because we are different. He may need to be challenged to do it on his own, but she made need to know someone cares about her struggle in order to get through it.
We respond to challenges differently and we need help in different ways. Someone can be helped financially, physically, emotionally and even spiritually (prayer). You may not think they deserve financial help, but there are other ways to help. Maybe you can offer to physically help them do the work. Maybe you can call or text words of encouragement. Something as simple as “I love you. You’ve got this!” can help someone feel better.
If you don’t think you can help in any of these ways, there’s one thing you can ALWAYS do. You can pray for them. Pray for strength, knowledge, finances, health… whatever it is they need to get through this.
There is always a way to help, and you should always want to help, whether you feel helped or not.
If you think you didn’t get any help, can you look at your situation differently now? Maybe you didn’t get the financial help at the time. Maybe nobody showed up to do the work with you. Did anyone encourage you though? Did you get told “I love you,” “You’ve got this,” or “Hang in there” by friends or family? Were you being prayed for?
I’m betting you got helped more than what you realized. We don’t always see the ways we are helped. You may have people moving mountains for you through prayer. Don’t ever underestimate the power of a praying sibling, parent, or grandparent each and every day.
So, when you say, “I didn’t get any help,” and you feel someone else shouldn’t either, think again. Even if you didn’t see direct help, the greatest Helper of all was right there with you. He did not leave you or forsake you. He put things into place that you didn’t see.
Don’t ever become prideful thinking you didn’t get any help so no one else should either.
Maybe your struggle happened so you could be the help to someone else someday. Maybe you’ve been financially blessed so that you can be a financial blessing to someone else. Don’t be so proud of your accomplishments that you don’t acknowledge that you were helped along the way. Step up and be the help that somebody else needs today.
If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother in need but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him? (1 John 3:17)
Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. (Philippians 2:4)
And be helpful!